what happens when our suffering does not turn into victory?

Recently, I heard a someone say “we suffer because God turns it into victory!”

That statement confuses me.    It sounds like we suffer so God can do something miraculous and “fix it”?

No, not really.  That is not how this works.

The correct view of suffering:

We suffer because we live on this earth.

We suffer because of the sin in the garden.

We suffer because we are on the old earth not the new earth (Revelation 21).

We suffer because we are human.

We suffer because we are not perfect.

We suffer because God allows it.

AND we may NEVER know why we suffer.  God may never tell us why he allows the suffering (see Job chapters 38 – 40, God does not tell him the “why” of his suffering).

Suffering is bad, evil, not fun, and also NOT MY FAULT.

The guilt of suffering should never be put on me or my family.

The guilt of suffering is NOT OF GOD.

In the book of Job, Job’s friends thought his suffering was brought on by his sin or something he must have done, and at the end of the book Job’s friends got to feel a little of the wrath of God for how they treated Job.

The suffering of a family with special needs is not suffering of their own making or their own sin. 

It is not my fault that I have to change gigantic diapers of a 13 year old.

It is not my fault my daughter cannot speak or show her love for me.

It is not my fault my daughter has hundreds and thousands of seizures in her lifetime.

The correct view of “victory”:

Victory is NOT a fixed, perfect circumstance.

Victory is NOT a knight riding in on a shining, white horse.

Victory is NOT battles won.

What is the victory of Christ?

Romans chapter 8 speaks directly to what “victory in Christ” looks like.

“If God is for us, who is against us? 32 He who did not spare His own Son, but delivered Him over for us all, how will He not also with Him freely give us all things? 33 Who will bring a charge against God’s elect? God is the one who justifies;34 who is the one who condemns? Christ Jesus is He who died, yes, rather who was [l]raised, who is at the right hand of God, who also intercedes for us. 35 Who will separate us from the love of [m]Christ? Will tribulation, or distress, or persecution, or famine, or nakedness, or peril, or sword? 36 Just as it is written,

“For Your sake we are being put to death all day long;
We were considered as sheep to be slaughtered.”

37 But in all these things we overwhelmingly conquer through Him who loved us. 38 For I am convinced that neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor principalities, nor things present, nor things to come, nor powers,39 nor height, nor depth, nor any other created thing, will be able to separate us from the love of God, which is in Christ Jesus our Lord.”

Catch that?

Christ suffered, therefore we will suffer too (verse 35).   It says we will suffer,  for no specific reason, other than for our enemy to separate us from God.   Our enemy uses the pain of suffering as a tool to keep us from God.  

But the truth is :

In our suffering, God won’t leave us (verse 39). 

THAT is the victory.  

Because of Jesus death on the cross, we have the CONSTANT PRESENCE OF GOD THROUGH SUFFERING.  

That is the victory

We won’t be separated from the love of God which is in Christ Jesus our Lord

There is no victory OVER suffering.

 It is victory IN suffering. 


2 thoughts on “what happens when our suffering does not turn into victory?

  1. Just WOW. I try to read everything you post – as it obviously is so pertinent to our life too. THIS. THIS. is spot on. Every parent with a child with special needs should have the chance to read this. Thank you for taking the time to share your heart, vulnerability, and journey with all of us.

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